Life’s pressures and the durability of my marriage
I have been married almost 29 years now and over the course of those years my wife and I have been through a lot together. There are those of you that have been married longer, for instance Kleon and Kathy Cronk who will have been married 50 years this coming April 15th! Whatever the length of the marriage it is a refining process!
“Husbands, love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her . . . So Husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.” Ephesians 5: 25,28
It is in marriage, learning how to love and serve our spouses that we become more mature than all the pressures we have to deal with. the problem is we have bought into the dangerous notion that marriage will make us “happy”. What is SO important is how we view marriage before we say “I do” that will greatly affect how we will respond to the challenges once we are married. we need a radical paradigm shift to change the way we view marriage.
Marriage is not about feeling happy everyday. Marriage is not about getting “MY” needs met. Marriage is not primarily about getting the sex you want. Marriage is a 24/7, 365, marathon designed by God Himself to knock of our rough edges and reform our selfish nature in order to make us more like him. Marriage is all about commitment, giving, serving, forgiving, and laying down our naturally selfish desires to live for another person. Can you imagine trying to do these things without a solid relationship with God or without spiritual compatibility?
Marriage is the most sanctifying experience in the Christian life. There is nothing like having a full length mirror (your spouse) following you around everyday reflecting back to you just how self-centered you really are. If you are not ready for this kind of exposure, then don’t even think about getting married.